Visitation Part II: Consistency

This is part of an ongoing series. You can read the first part or any of the Divorce topics.
Many child development experts talk about the need for consistency in environment, routine, and parental support/caregiving (see a brief overview from the Better Brains for Babies website). It is through the patterns of consistency (or inconsistency) [...]

For him.

I’m staying up late to work; this post will be sort of short, maybe…okay, so I lied.
The Boy is home. He is sleeping in his very own bed (top bunk tonight), in his Grandpa David’s blue highschool jersey and a pair of bright red jammie pants that in no way match. I’ve only [...]

Visitation Part I: Communication

According to Wikipedia, visitation, in United States Law, is the term for the right of a non-custodial parent to visit with their children, elsewhere known as “Contact (law).”
It is a right that guarantees you, unless you have completely messed up, access to your child…a place in your child’s life, regardless of your relationship with the [...]

The D-Word

I’ve been asked recently by friends and family unfortunate enough to be going through a divorce, how I came out so well from my own, how I kept it from being ugly.
That’s bullshit.
Divorce is ugly and no one comes out well (at least at first–it’s the hope that things will get better that makes [...]